Must read: 12 points that shows you are dating a grown ass man and not a kid

The truth is that you don’t have to settle

for whatever boy comes your way. In
fact, you shouldn’t settle; you’re doing
yourself a real injustice. If you’re going
to be with a man then be with a grown-
ass man. Simply put, they’re better for
you. They’re more fun. They’re more
reliable. And they’re better in bed.
There really is no reason to date the
schmucks you’ve been dating.
Although, to be fair, it can be hard to tell
the difference – especially at first glance.
But with time, it’s easy to separate the
men from the boys. In case you need a
little extra help, here’s a checklist for
you:
1. His apartment looks like an apartment.
Not a frat house. Not a zoo. Not a
garbage dump, but an actual apartment.
He doesn’t necessarily have to have his
own place. Nor does it need to be
extravagantly furnished, but you should
be able to distinguish the floor from the
rest of the place.
Grown men take pride in surrounding
themselves with an environment that
supports an active and healthy lifestyle.
If he’s too lazy to keep his place clean
then he’s definitely too lazy for the more
important things in life.
2. He does what he does because he loves to
do it – he’s more than capable of motivating
himself.
This isn’t to say that a guy working at
McDonald’s isn’t a grown-ass man.
Unless, of course, that’s where he plans
on staying. It’s really all about the
plan. Grown men have plans to get
themselves from point A to point B. More
importantly still, they are driven to do
so.
3. He doesn’t ever need a babysitter.
No matter how drunk he is, no matter
the situation… if your man is able to take
care of himself and get his sh*t done,
then he’s a grown man.
If you’re dating a guy who needs you to
carry him home after a night out or to
keep a leash on him so he doesn’t go off
an do something stup*d, then I think you
know the kind of guy you’re dating.
4. When he has a problem, he speaks his
mind – and does so calmly and respectively.
You see, grown men don’t just go about
agreeing with everything their women
say. They have a mind of their own and
they’re more than happy to speak their
opinions. However, they do so
respectfully and are always open to
hearing your thoughts on the matter.
5. He has his priorities straight – and you
know you’re most definitely one of them.
Guys who are lost in life aren’t much
more than boys. Men have direction.
Boys have playtime. If your man knows
what he wants out of life and gives all
those things that are most important to
him attention and care, then you have
yourself a winner.
6. He takes care of himself – body and mind.
His body is his temple and his mind is
his high-priest. He lives by his own
religion – his own philosophies. He
understands that in order to feel good,
you have to feel healthy. He’s a well-
oiled machine, inside and out.
7. He supports you and your dreams, always
encouraging you and keeping things
positive.
It’s the men who tell you that you can’t
do something, that you can’t accomplish
something, who are poisonous. Grown
men don’t like to use the word “can’t,”
especially when it comes to the women
they love.
8. He doesn’t complain because he knows
complaining doesn’t yield results.
He puts his nose to the grind and
produces results. b!tching is for b!tches.
He’s a grown-ass man.
9. He makes decisions, but is more than
comfortable with allowing you to take the
wheel.
There is never a need to have one of
those pointless “what do you want to
do?”, “I don’t know, whatever you want
to do” conversations. If you ask him what
he wants to do, he gives you options, not
a question or a volley in response.
10. When he has you alone, he isn’t
interested in anything other than you.
He’s not concerned with the show on TV,
the music on the radio or anything other
than getting you undressed. He’s a man,
an animal. And he is more than keen to
let the animal out to play.
11. He admits that he is wrong when he is
wrong.
He doesn’t point fingers or try to
maneuver out of the situation. He
understands that being wrong is part of
human nature. There’s no shame in it.
He understands that you can’t learn if
you can’t admit you’re wrong.
12. He knows your value and appreciates
you for you.
He doesn’t just tell you he loves you – he
shows you he loves you. To him, you are
a part of his life. You are an extension of
him.
He cares about you and knows that
words fall short of the emotions he feels
for you. He’s not shy to show you he
loves you because you are one of the
most important aspects of his life.