Read the story of a twisted relationship

Me and my ex-boyfriend, who is the father of

my child, both work at the same job.
We live together and try to be cordial for the
sake of our child. Our job is great. It has
individually placed both of us in the middle
class bracket. We were together when we first
started working there. I got the job first and he
seemed jealous, but a couple of months later
he got a job, too.
Once he started working there I saw a change
in his attitude. He began to act cocky and
arrogant. Our work place is 85% women and the
rest men. His first month there he begin to pick
petty arguments that led to us breaking up. A
day later he was trying to get with this girl at
the job. I found out and was hurt because we’ve
only been broken up for a day and I felt this
was his way to talk to these female with no
reprimands for his action. I was also hurt
because he was choosing to court women I had
to work with which was like a slap in my face.
He apologized and we began to work on our
relationship.
A few months later he was back to his old
ways, arguing to break up. At this time we had
one car and we’re both on different schedules.
One day he picked me up, he was off work, and
I asked how was his day. He said cool and that
he didn’t really do anything. I later found out he
was chilling with a girl from our job at her
house. I don’t know what they did, but when I
confronted him he said that it was none of my
business. We broke up and he moved out. Once
my lease was coming to an end I was looking
for a new spot when he told me to move in with
him and rekindle our relationship. At this point I
was on the verge of totally being over him, but I
agreed to move in because I wanted a family.
Fast forward three months, he decided to break
up again. He says that he didn’t feel loved by
me which is absolute bull-ish. We’ve been
broken up for 3 months, but stay together. We
were working on our relationship. A week ago I
went out of town and left him the keys to my
car because his was in the shop. Everything
was good! I recently found out he’s talking to a
new girl at work. He wants to move out of the
apartment we share and told me this the day I
got back from my vacation. I can financially live
here by myself, but with my car note, insurance,
bills, etc. I would have only $75 a month to
survive off and that’s not including groceries,
gas, and things for my child. So, I just told him
let’s just break the lease and go half on the
fees. He’s upset that I won’t to do it that way
because he claims he doesn’t have that type of
money. He says to let him take his name off
the lease which would run him $25, and that
once I get my taxes to end the lease which
would run me $2,675. I think that is absolutely
absurd for him to even say that. I’m trying to
be as civil as ever, but I’m to a point where my
petty side is about to pop up. What should I do?
– Sick and Tired
Dear Ms. Sick and Tired,
You go to the management office, and discuss
with them how you can take your name off the
lease. You have more at stake than he does
because when you break the lease and have to
move, guess who has to care for your child?
You will. Guess who is going to have to feed,
clothe, and provide for your child? You will. You
will have a greater burden than he will. So, don’t
tell him what you’re going to do, just do it. Get
your name off the lease, and since you both
work different shifts, then, when he is at work,
and you have found yourself a new and smaller
place that you can afford for you and your
child, you move all your things out. Leave his
ass with that apartment, that lease, and his
own bills. You don’t owe him anything.
Then, I recommend you go to family court, and
put him on child support. He wants to be petty
and silly and immature. Then, make his lazy
and trifling ass pay for the child he helped to
procreate. He’s complaining about money, and
you both are making the same amount, yet, he
wants you to eat the costs and bear the burden
of the finances. No! That’s not how this works.
Put him on child support. Don’t play games with
him. Don’t get into this back and forth with him.
And, don’t rely on him to give you his word and
tell you what he is going to do and how much
he can give you. Let the courts handle this.
I strongly encourage you to go to your
supervisor/manager at work and explain the
situation about your relationship, and it’s
unfortunate because you shouldn’t have your
personal life affecting your work life, and since
you two knuckleheads work together, then you
need to make sure your work environment is
not affected by your personal matters. Tell your
supervisor/manager what is going on, and how
if you don’t need to interact with him, or work
with him, then it would be preferable. Do not
engage him while at work. Do not argue with
him while at work. Do not get into personal
matters while at work. Both of you can stand to
lose your jobs, so, if he confronts you, or make
snide remarks, or do anything that makes you
feel uncomfortable, then, you document it and
take it to his or your supervisor/manager. Each
time he does this you document it. Keep a
paper trail. You don’t want to lose your job over
his petty and silly antics.
Also, I know it is going to be difficult knowing
he is dating another woman from your job. He’s
done this while you were together, and while
you were broken up. This is a huge problem as
the man who you were once intimate with and
wanting to share a life with, and thought you
would be a family together is now parading
around the workplace with various women. I
know it hurts. I know it’s difficult knowing he is
dating these women you work with. You can
either look for another job, or ask for a transfer,
if your company is willing to relocate you and if
they have another location, or you can remain
in that environment and just ignore him and the
other women. Don’t reveal or share any of your
personal life with your co-workers. It will get
messy. Don’t confront or argue with other
women on your job that he may be dating. It’s
not worth it. Be the bigger adult and make sure
you remain professional.
In regards to him seeing and attempting to date
other women at work, well, it just goes to show
his level of immaturity and lack of class and
judgment. He will eventually get caught up with
these women, and it will be a big blow up at
work and he will get fired. Trust and believe. He
can only keep so much drama and dirt going at
the work place. All of this will come crashing
down on him and he will lose his job and
wonder what happened. Don’t get involved or
engaged with who he is doing, and what they
are doing. Focus on you and your job, your
responsibilities, and making it through the work
day and work week.
Lastly, stop all this back and forth with him.
Break up and get back together. Then, break up,
get back together, and move in. NO! NO! NO!
NO! He only wants you to live with him to cut
the costs of his living expenses. Girl, he doesn’t
have reliable transportation. You do. At one
point he didn’t have a car and was using your
vehicle. Then, he gets a car, and it’s in the
shop, and while you’re on vacation he is using
your car to rip and run the streets. Are you that
naïve to leave your car with him? Girl, grow up
and stop being his momma and care taker. This
fool can barely keep a car or pay his bills, so I
know you are picking up the slack. You are
putting more into him than he is into you and
this relationship. STOP IT! It’s time to do you,
and focus on you and your child. He doesn’t
love you. He doesn’t want to be with you. This
is very clear. So, stop appeasing him and stop
accommodating his requests. He had you move
in with him, and then he breaks up with you and
now he wants you to assume the apartment so
he can move out. The hell! No, ma’am. And,
he’s talking about telling he wants you to take
his name of the lease, which will only cost $25,
and you take over the lease. Uhm, hell to the
no! That is his apartment. He found the
apartment and moved in without you, thus, let
his ass stay there on his own. Girl, follow my
instructions and do you, boo! – Terrance Dean

This article was Culled from BOSSIP..